Sweet tea with honey

The day begun with a cup of tea with the Blackcurrent taste and a teaspoon of honey, some soymilk.

This day I had e-mail to answer to on my work-not-work-place which is the benefit of being part in a non-profitable organisation. You got mail and you get something to do when the parttime job is, well isn´t calling for your attention.

Last week I got three days of work in the kindergarten and took one day off for the Art Exhibition of the Springtime - Vårsalong at Roslagsmålarna.

The weekend involved friday dinner in a restaurant with a party of 12 and a baby. Unlucky number?  And on Sunday I attended the christening of said baby.
I´m not a believer was all I could think of but the family talks in the original language of Syrian which maybe means something religious.

I picked up my camera and did some photoshop yesterday, haven´t done stuff in ages with the photos, nothing since last year.

I've gotten coffee in the afternoon and a cinnamon roll - kanelbulle. Mom did the baking.

I´ve got no plan but got some inspiration from a TED talk of mr Tim Ferriss just now. He talked about Fear-setting opposed to making a goal - plan. Something about making 3 pages
one What if you wanted to be.. maybe start a company
Define - a thing / Prevent -think of worst case scenarios/ Repair - ask for help if needed
two What might be the benefits of an attempt or partial success?
three the cost of inaction what if you don´t do this - 6 months/ 1 year / 3 year
Make a fear setting plan once a quarter year said Tim on his TED talk on the Youtube.
There was something about control also...

 "Out of control .. dance .. go crazy" sings Leila K

Cheers/ Linda

Take the other to lunch - TED talk

I'm preparing myself for a meeting tomorrow with the other mentally. Came across Elizabeths Lessers TED talk video and I think it's a good starting point for getting to know this person I'm to meet..

Here's some transcript of the video

Elizabeth Lesser, writer, healer, Meet the other. TED talk Take the Other to lunch” In each one of us there is multiple worlds. The Mystic part. The optical delusion of everyday according to Einstein.  Shod, positive energy is what we need

Conversation. Martin Luther King Jr I can never be what I ought to be until you are what you ought to be (the interrelated structure of reality) Mother Teresa - the problem with the world is that we draw the circle of our family to small. Ubuntu. I need you in order to be me and you need me in order to be you.
Don’t persuade, defend or interrupt, be curious, be conversational be real and listen. - Share some  of your life experiences with me. - What issue deeply concern you - What have you always wanted to ask someone from the other side Relevance to any problem anywhere -ask - Why her side does such outrageous allegations and lies about my side?
-what she asks.. -Like about being elitist ..she thought my side beat up more on her side - calling her brainless guntoading racists marveled nothing true to them nearest people sows trust now, believe speak up in our own communities when witnessing otherizing taunt. Persian poet Rumi - Out beyond ideas wrongdoing and right doing there is a field I’ll meet you there

I  need you like you need me. I cannot be my best self if you are not you are your best self.  She reads the title from some books with negative words - telling bad energy is nothing good, positive energy is what we need. More optimism than pessimism right.

in swedish/på svenska Jag behöver dig liksom du behöver mig. Jag kan inte vara på topp om inte du är det.

Elizabeth Lesser, författare, healer. Pratar om att möta den andre i ett TED talk med titeln Ta den andre på lunch. Inom oss finns det flertalet världar. En mystiker och en vetenskaplig - Konversation. 

Martin Luther King Jr sade det "Jag kan aldrig bli den jag är ämnad att bli om inte du är den du är ämnad att vara", vilket är ett perfekt exempel på den interrelativa strukturen av verkligheten. Moder Teresa sade det att "problemet med världen är att vi ritar cirkeln kring familjen alltför litet." Sedan Nelson Mandela hade ett uttryck från Ubuntu som går "Jag behöver dig för att kunna vara mig själv och du behöver mig för att kunna vara dig själv." 

I mötet med den andre presenterar Elizabeth Lesser tre riktlinjer men säger först Försök inte övertala, försvara eller ta över den andre. Var nyfiken, pratsam, ärlig och lyssna. Frågor att ta till diskussion när du tar den andre på lunch.

- Dela några av dina livserfarenheter med mig.                                                                                 

- Vad tycker du är viktigaste frågan på agendan? 

- Vad har du alltid velat fråga någon från den anda sidan?                                       

Relevant för vilket problem som helst är frågan varför har din sida så starka anklagelser och lögner om min sida? - den ene tycker den andre läxar upp denne mera någon kallas hjärndöd. Förundran, inget sant för deras närmast sörjande så nu känner de forna fienden tillit till varandra och de fann gemensamt att tala om i de egna lägren när pratet om "den andre" blommar upp. 

Persiske poeten Rumi skrev en gång Bortom våra idéer om vad som är rätt och fel finns det ett fält, vi träffas där. 

Undras om hon hört talas om "den Isländska metoden" som jag läst om i konflikthanteringskursen. Redan i kindergarten börjar uppfostringen av barn och de ges möjlighet att prata öppet om vad de känner och hur de känner efter vad som hänt på skolgården på veckans samling. De lär sig att vara mer omhändertagande ((funderar om det är för att de är så få invånare på Island - kultur och miljö))

Ted Talk "loose transcript" Andrew Solomon

  Andrew Solomon - Depression, the secret we share. (Shows pictures of famous persons that had depression Emily Dickinson, Goya, ) 1991 mother died, relationship dead, 3 years later, did not want to do anything. - Everything to do seem like to much to do. Instead of feel good to have friends what alot to do. Difficult to eat. You know it is ridiculous to be depressed. Feel myself doing less, thinking less. Then anxiety. If you told a month only. A sensation of being afraid all the time. Too painful to be alive. Lay in bed thinking something is wrong. Finally the phone rang. His Father rang him. Who am I if I cannot be myself? What if the medication do me someone else. There be something. Merge and relapsed. Have to be in therapy for life. Is it philosophical or...
The treatment is a disaster, I hope in the future. No thing of love without desprair. Depression, grief and sadness. Loss, six months later feel better it is grief. If loss and still at a loss six month later, then it is depression.
Andrew Solomon interviewed depression people. It is a serious thing.
Lithium without the medicin she katatonic. I was singing to myself Where have all the flowers gone over and over to get the voice out of your head. - Think about killin self.
Thats true but I think what to focus about now is what to have for breakfast.
Play videogame an hour. The healthy thought killing more than the depressed group thought of killin little monsters.
A husband and wife hiding their depression to eachother. Hiding medication in different places in the same
If u have braincancer.
If you feel better you get better from depression.
How medication - making little things from yarn helped a woman. (Look out if she had OCD too)
Rwanda, westafrica, east africa - Treatment - take the people into sunshine and music and community, no the westernes just took them to a room and make them talk about bad things in this damp room.
A woman of 7children just laid on the bed, covers over her head, abusive husband. 6months later she is single mother can help the kids with their homework, she got happier kids and says: I asked the lord to send me an angel and he did, she said.
Think it through. What is the mechanism of resillience? Those who hide from it get worse. Those who have it. Im glad to have been in hospital 40times. Learned to give all the things I need. Have found a soul inside myself says Andrew Solomon. Found a way to love my depression, to cling to the reasons for living.